RULES FOR A CONTINUOUS HARMONIOUS AND UNIFIED RELATIONSHIP,
Be aware of your mate when you meet him or her.
Come together on a mental and spiritual level. When two minds are interested in
the same aspects of life, this will stimulate the spiritual being, awaken the
spiritual affinity, which will automatically bring you together on a physical
level.
Now that you are together, establish a major goal with interest that will add
joy to your being together. Know the process by which you will reach your goals.
Put the minds together and work out a plan, a workable plan by which both must
follow. TOP
Take one step at a time. Do not try to do everything at the same time. Complete
one mission then start another one. If you plan to get a house, don't buy the
furniture
before you get the house. Get the house then think about the furniture.
Know what each of you like for pleasure, and share these desires with each
other.
Of all things be honest with your mate; but first be honest with yourself.
Read motivational material and exchange ideas that were stimulated by the
material.
9. Be conscious of a continuous search for the knowledge of self. This will
enable you to know your mate much better.
Know that obstacles will appear to test your strength.
Maintain a positive attitude while over coming the obstacles.
If both are working share the home responsibility as well as the little problems
which will occur.
When the first child arrives, in the event that it does, the husband must
understand she will have more work, and less time to share with him on a
personal level.
Share the sleepless nights you are kept awake by the baby or any problem for
that matter. TOP Of all things don't feed poison to the mind of the child.
The worse thing a husband and wife could do is feed the wrong things into the
subconscious mind of their children.
If there's a disagreement between the two of you, try not to disturb the
children with it. When they see their mother and father dissatisfied with each
other, it tends to affect them emotionally.
Do not lie to your children. When they question us at a certain age, some of us
tend to feel that they are not ready to know the different aspects of life, so
we take them on a trip by injecting untrue statements into their minds.
Remember, when the mind is mature enough to ask questions it is capable of
understanding the truth.
Do not criticize each other in front of the children. This will take away faith
and love. In fact, criticism is no good; period.
Make sure you teach them how to watch television. This will enable them to learn
the difference in what's real and what is unreal.
When they are old enough to share the work, show them how they can be helpful
around the house. This will instill responsibility into them which will be
necessary for their survival in the future. TOP When our children become young adults and go contrary to the ways in which we
have taught them, we have a tendency to put the blame on them. Only when we stop
and realize that our teaching in the home is the base which causes their
behavior will we stop casting the blame on them.
If you used these principles, and you find them not working for you, you will
automatically know that you are not meant to be with each other. And I would
suggest that you get out of each other's life as soon as possible, if not, you
will find yourselves being two painful souls.
So many of us come together with lack of understanding and live a very
discontented life for many years. Most of the time we will look for the problem
outside of ourselves, and put the blame on the other person. Blame who may, but
this does not alter the fact that your life is miserable.
As a drummer changes his drum beat
to get a different sound we can change our thoughts turn our complete lives around Instead of thinking evil or worrying each and every hour think of love, peace, and happiness know that the world is ours As the ocean reflects the sun from its deepest blue I can love all of you you can love me too Why not give it a try stop criticizing each other look at your inner self know we all are brothers As the fish loves the sea that gives him air to breathe it wasn't an accident that all this wood was once trees Realizing all of this is as simple as a grin the oneness of all of us is calling from within.
When we become conscious of our true nature, we are able to love and understand
others, & live with a peaceful soul, as the flow of love energizes the essence
of our existence.